Blow Off
Blow Off”
Early in my career, I spent a longtime fan. I worked on something that my boss, client or colleague. Confront fear that make things worse, but also concerns that holding it in time for me to use later. So instead, I blow a little steam by venting a friend or a trusted work friend. If only I could release some pressure, I recover and move on, right? Maybe not. News Evidence shows that ventilation do things better and may even make things worse.
According to the University of Arkansas psychologist Jeffrey M. Lohr, research has consistently shown that ventilation anger is best ineffective and in some cases is even harmful. Search Lohr and colleagues examined the expression of anger that goes back until the decade of 1950 to determine the effectiveness of ventilation as a strategy management of anger.
"In study after study, the conclusion was the same: Expressing anger is not reduce aggressive tendencies and likely makes things worse, "Lohr and colleagues wrote in" The Pseudopsychology ventilation treatment of anger: consequences and alternatives for Mental Health Practice, "which appeared as a chapter of anger, aggression, and interventions Interpersonal Violence, edited by Timothy A. Cavell and Kenya T. Malcolm of the University of Arkansas.
Aristotle advocated catharsis or emotional release negative feelings and Sigmund Freud theorized that repressed emotions can accumulate and cause psychological symptoms. Lohr notes that some companies "now have a web page, anger and" rap sessions "to allow employees to express his anger and vent. "However, the concept of catharsis is not concluded under scientific scrutiny.
"Research has shown that people often leads, and we expect to improve your mood … Perhaps because the ventilation temporarily reduces the excitement, people often say they feel better inside, "Lohr and his colleagues." However, this improvement is short-term emotional and does not lead to less aggression. At most, the term may feel better for a short period, but just enjoy the crazy actions and not by a significant reduction in feelings of anger or aggressive tendencies. worst case, the breakdown promotes the illusion that is healthy to express anger. "In other words, as Ben & Jerry's has good taste, you want more, but that does not mean it is good for you.
"If the ventilation is" of its system "And then to express their anger should result in a reduction of anger and aggression. Unfortunately for catharsis theory, the results showed the opposite effect, "Lohr and colleagues wrote.
So if you leave that anger does not help to make it work, what is the alternative?
Unlike the experience of breakdown, other studies Lohr and colleagues reviewed evidence that anger dissipates quickly when people breathe deeply, relax or take a break. "People do not realize that anger would be dissipated if they had not been released. On the other hand, would have dissipated more quickly had they not evacuated and tried to control his anger in his place. "Any action" it is impossible to maintain state in anger "can help defuse anger Here are some ways that can help you let go of their anger.:
- Take a few deep breaths.
- Count to 10.
- Listen to good music.
- Intentionally in a good mood.
- Think of something that is appreciated.
- Call a friend or your children to say hello.
- Take a break.
- Stretching, walking or moving.
- Re-frame the situation to give a different perspective.
- Recognize that you have control over how to respond and react, and feel well, it just feels better than being angry.
Few of us mean to be harmful when ventilation. We certainly does not make us feel more angry and frustrated. We just want to get out and move forward. But with a better understanding how we handle our anger, we can find effective ways to improve our work and enrich our lives.
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